These relationships all turned out to be characterized by emotional abuse. I want us to talk about emotional abuse—define it and look at some warning signs—in hopes that you will be able to stand strong and not suffer through one of these volatile relationships. Emotional Abuse is defined as behavior and language designed to degrade or humiliate someone by attacking their self-value or personality. It is a silencing attack on the self-esteem of a human being: Signs you are in an emotionally abusive relationship: Constantly needs to know where you are, who you are with, and what you are doing i. Makes you feel like no one else would want you. He checks your cell phone or email without permission. What emotional abuse sounds like: They believe if they change how they behave, speak, dress, socialize, and work, then their partner will stop criticizing them or flying into rages.